The Addict, Part 2

I knew that asking Jachin for space would leave him wide open for an attack from his Addiction. She'd read here that I was distancing myself from him, and dealing with my own issues, and use that as the time she needed to start whispering in his ear. I'm sure that everyone remembers Lord of the Rings: The Two Towers. There is a scene where Aragorn meets up with Gandalf to go to the King of Rohan to have him rise up against the forces of Saruman and Mordor. Rohan's King, Theoden, had been under a spell by Saruman's evil seducer, Grima Wormtongue. Grima would whisper in the kings ear, relentless in his insinuations, relentless in his attempts to turn Theoden against everything that was important to him...his son, his country, his people. Theoden became feeble and elderly before his time. He was tired, he was confused, and he believed Wormtongue to be good and just, to be the only person that truly loved him. Wormtongue worked hard to isolate Theoden from his loved ones, his friends and family, and was insidious in making Theoden completely and solely dependent upon him for everything. Take a peek:



So it has been that the Addiction has yet again Infected Jachin in my absence. It's the same dog and pony show, she has used all the same tactics that you'd think he'd be immune to by now. Of course the Addiction isn't allowed into the house. Malcolm, with incredibly valid reasons, has decided that he's one step away from obtaining a restraining order on her. Jachin wanted the banishment lifted, but foolishly asked in the presence of his own brother, who quickly sided with Malcolm. Nobody wants a Wormtongue running roughshod through your own home, totally out of control and mostly unsupervised. Malcolm doesn't feel safe. He worries about his things, and he worries about what the Addiction will do and say next. It's not a matter of IF she will so much as WHEN she will. The patterns are incredibly clear, and unfortunately, she is more manipulative than Jachin. Malcolm says he is not ok with that. I personally just don't give a shit anymore. I'm tired of watching Jachin stick his hand into the fire again and again and again and again. He keeps getting burned, but for some reason, the mechanism that allows him to learn from the experience is broken. I restate....He's living where he is now because his Addiction made him homeless. Here are some other great questions: Why is he currently unemployed? Why did I have to write a blog about being Blackmailed? Answers? The Addiction.

Yet again, I say I'm tired. If Jachin wants a Grima Wormtongue, he should just go get it. If he wants to be controlled and isolated from all his family and friends, he should just go do it. If he wants to ride the roller coaster of that relationship for the rest of his life because he needs that drama, he should just do it. I don't want to be in the middle anymore, I don't want to be stalked anymore, I don't want to be blackmailed anymore, or whispered about venomously via a 3rd party anymore. I will be sad if he chooses poorly again. But I'll understand he just can't help himself, and there is nothing more I can say or do. I just hope he's not really stupid enough to believe that the Addiction wants back into the apartment because of him.