I do love being able to give gifts. I can't always afford lavish things, but I am very frugal, know how to work a discount, and can usually pinpoint something that I believe someone will really like and come close to fulfilling the need. I listen to people, I watch them through the year, and I file away thoughts. It works wonders with my daughter, who will be overjoyed with her gifts this year even though I managed to keep it under 300.00 and still achieve alot of stuff. I've made some gifts for those I know will appreciate them, some knitted items, some baked goods. And I did shop carefully for Malcolm, trying to get things that would please him.
I honestly didn't expect him to reciprocate. In the long years with Jachin, he and I never really exchanged gifts. It hasn't been until the last 2 years that Jachin has been quite extravagant with me at Christmas time, almost overwhelmingly so since I can't come close, money wise, to what he's spending on me. Jachin, when he sets his mind to it, is an amazing gifter. Malcolm and I didn't exchange gifts last Holiday...it didn't seem appropriate yet. And this year, I wasn't expecting it simply because I know how much he has to purchase for all his children. It's a ton, and the last thing I want is for him to be strapped because of me.
A couple of weeks ago, Malcolm led me on this conversation about our likes and dislikes. I know he's a nutjob for bicycle parts. I could buy him a box of parts, assorted, and he'd begin to hyperventilate. But he doesn't really see what gets me like that. He knows I like crafting supplies, that I become a little light headed in the beading section. But he also knows that, like him and his bicycle parts, the LAST thing I need is MORE craft stuff. It's really overwhelming how much I have. I'm a newly proclaimed Yarn Whore since I discovered the Knifty Knitter, but Jachin took care of that with 2 ginormous boxes of yarn. I'm so set on yarn it's sick. I'm not a jewelry girl, I don't even have my ears pierced anymore. I like fun bohemian pieces, but I'm not the kind of girl that will slaver over a specific cut of diamond versus another. It just doesn't do me like that. So, it was at that moment in the conversation that my friend showed up with a new Crock Pot for me, and I felt all warm and tingly inside when I saw it. This new thing is HUGE, and wonderful. So I told Malcolm I loved small kitchen appliances. Innocently thinking, at the time, that he was just wanting to know more about me. LOLOL, nope! He was trying to get a clue about what to get me for Christmas.
I love to blog, but that doesn't require anything on his part except for him being a part of the story. What I really want more than anything is just his attention and time. He's been so giving this year, calling me everyday to chat and laugh, to tell me he loves me. He'd actually asked Jachin to find out what I wanted for him, which I really really thought was adorable. Jachin kinda huffed and told him "Whatever you get her, don't get her a bluetooth!", LOLOL, seeing as that was his very special gift to me already. Jachin was tired of me trying to talk to him via speaker phone when I was driving. So I told Jachin to tell him that I wanted a Date Night. Malcolm was less than impressed with this suggestion....He wanted me to have something to open. So I have no idea what I'm getting, and whatever he decides on will be amazing simply because it comes from him. I don't think he can honestly understand that he is the gift I want to keep enjoying most of all, as often as I'm given the chance to do so. Time with him is so precious, so coveted, I can't honestly think of something I want more than just him loving me.
We'll be exchanging our gifts after the holiday so that we can have real time together without the kids banging the doors down. Malcolm, I love you baby. Oh...and you're gonna LOVE what I got you!!
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