Newbies

I'm not sure what's in the water lately.  I've been approached on all fronts by so many new people that are contemplating entering the lifestyle that it makes my head spin.  Don't get me wrong, I love the fact that people are expanding the box they live in and are daring to open up their relationships with their spouses and significant others.  But it makes me wonder if there is a wash of boredom sweeping my area, or if the tough economy has simply driven people to need more in their lives in terms of diversion.

I think back to how I got into the lifestyle.  It was college really, although we had no idea it's what we were doing.  I went to art school, was a painting and fine arts major, and I set about expanding my mind as many ways as I could.  It was a long ways for a girl that had been raised in small town Maine and attended 12 years worth of Catholic Schools.  So we had free love and sex, big puppy piles of us all sleeping together, fucking, loving, and just living.  We didn't know it was swinging, and truthfully, I don't consider that to be really swinging.

I first got into swinging when I was part of a committed couple with my ex, Jachin.  He'd pushed for it, of course, and he knew that I'd been quite open minded in the past and had done 3sums and moresums.  I'd never been with a woman sexually though, and I'd struggled with that aspect of my sexuality for years.  Being mysteriously attracted to women, but always having a carnal love of men as well.  So Jachin and I attended our first party at the Chalet Motel.  It was a KnA party, WAYYYYYYY back before they'd remodeled their new location.  I was nervous as hell, drank myself into a stupor, and stayed glued to Jachin's side like a Siamese twin all night.  I was so uncomfortable with my own body, and I was sure I'd never be attractive to anyone in the lifestyle because of my weight.  So many hangups, so little information.

We were lucky and met a really nice couple at that party that talked to us and let me know that my insecurities were simply products of my own mind.  To some extent, that couple tried to mentor us as well as they could in such a boisterous and busy environment.  Over the years I gained wisdom and information from other couples and hosts in the lifestyle that were wonderful sharing and caring people.  But I made mistakes that could have been avoided if I'd known things on the front side of this endeavor.

I'm contemplating hosting a Newbie Boot Camp to provide that kind of information to people either thinking of joining the lifestyle, or to people who have and are struggling, or to people who's first impression was less than good.  I really think arming people with info is the way to go to help them relax into this and enjoy themselves.  Although all the information is available online, I think it would be an exciting venture to host it locally where people can meet experienced couples, meet with vendors who carry accessories, and learn about all the terms this lifestyle carries.  Vanilla?  Unicorn?  BBW?  Fetish?  On Premise?  Meet & Greet?
Cripes, I had no blessed idea what it all was, and many newbies are afraid to ask for fear of looking stupid.  So I've put out some feelers on the idea, and am cautiously excited to maybe do this.  Malcolm's going to hurl when he hears about this one.  He'll roll his eyes and say, "Let me know when you get to the fucking part. I'll be there for that." LOLOL